For example, if you love the glamorous entertainment industry, you're probably going to be thrilled working for many of the companies in Los Angeles. Likewise if your heart is in supporting traditional American families, perhaps you'll feel exuberantly alive working for a company that promotes family conveniences, or nurturing family activities. When you treat your job search with the love and passion of a brewing sordid affair, you'll truly look forward to work each day. You'll do all those little extras that are so important in the beginning of a relationship. You'll continue to learn and grow. Your job will be joyful. And more than likely, you'll get paid very well to do it!

ADMIRATION. We often have an idea of what our ideal mate looks like. Hair texture and color, eye color, physique, the sound of his or her voice. Likewise, this is the first step to take when you search for your next job. That's why magazines often promote the top companies to work for -- these are companies that people admire. What kind of employer do you admire? Think about the job environment. Do you want to aspire to a window office, or do you prefer open environments where everyone's equally accessible?

Think about the perfect boss who is dying to have you work on interesting projects and promote you at every opportunity. Think about the colleagues you're working with and how you might realistically interact with them at networking events. Can you see yourself bowling with them, or perhaps having each other's families over for dinner? Visualize yourself in the office kitchen at 3pm in the afternoon singing "Happy Birthday" with your colleagues. Who do you want to be singing with? Imagining your ideal job in great detail puts your intention into motion.

Let's say you're interviewing to work in an advertising agency and you're a creative person who loves flexibility and wants a boss who provides lots of autonomy but is accessible for brainstorming when you're in a rut. Let's say you crave open space with ping pong tables and dart boards in a creative war room environment. But let's say that this agency's clients are predominantly traditional corporations with organizational hierarchies, long approval processes, micromanagement of details, and slow to act.

REWARD. Nobody enjoys dating people that are not right for them. But until you date them, you really don't know whether there's a fit. When you finally do date someone that's the right fit, it feels completely effortless to make each other laugh and enjoy each other's company. You're on top of the world. If you've been less than honest with yourself or your mate, it doesn't take that long before you're each finding little faults that can't be overlooked. But if you've both been authentic with each other, that bliss continues and grows deeper and deeper. Think about what this means in your job,abercrombie.

Again, think of the interviewing process as a night out on a date, so to speak. How does your gut feel as you're talking with your interviewer? Is this somebody you'd want to go out with day after day? Is it easy for you to strike up a conversation with the interviewer? Do you find you're stumbling upon your words, or worse, that you're completely bored? Is she or he really listening to what you're saying by repeating back to you what you've said? Better yet, do you feel like a couple of good friends laughing and having a great time? Really try to use the cues your body is sending you -- try not to think so much with your head. Are you in love with this person? Let's hope so, because you'll be spending more time with him or her than with your significant other!

So, have you decided? Do you want a long-term unfulfilling relationship, or do you want to have a love affair with your next job? The choice is yours.

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